homecoming to freshman boy? = no planning

Homecoming is next weekend. Mitchell has asked a girl and she has said yes. We have been hearing from other boys about their crazy ways of asking girls to homecoming. I give these boys credit but I'm thinking, wow, they are  setting the bar high for the rest of their high school years!

My Mitchell didn't go for any of the hoopla, he went right up and looked into her eyes and asked. He did say he was yelling a bit because he was so nervous.... 

So why the blog you ask? Well, as some of you know, Mitchell is my absent minded professor. He is so in the moment,  he hasn't thought about the next phase, planning. I explained to him that he needs some information. Basics..

• is he going with a group of friends, if so, who?
• how is he getting to the dance? are we driving?
• what color is Sofia wearing so he can coordinate and buy a corsage

I have seen so many photos of friends sharing their kiddos homecoming pictures. Love them and got me thinking, Mitchell what your plan?.... in his 14 year old head he hasn't even thought of these questions.

... I told him jokingly that the school asked for volunteers, the theme this year is "Galaxy" thought Steve and I could have a great time with that one. I told him I could get some Princess Leia hair, Steve could be Obi-Wan Kenobi and have a great time at the coat check in... he was not a fan of that idea....

Starting in Middle school, there have been meetings with the educators discussing the idea allowing kids to take responsibility, decrease the 'helicopter parent' mentality.  I am a firm believer in allowing them to fly, with a net underneath just in case. As far as Homecoming goes, I would say let him figure it out, but I feel a bit bad for Sofia if he didn't have at least minimal  things in place. 

It is so interesting to witness how each boy has such different brains. Jack is my planner, he is packed 2 weeks before we go on a trip. He was dressed for his Bar Mitzvah 3 hours before he had to leave. Mitchell, well, planning is not his strongest attribute at the moment. I cross my fingers that as his frontal lobe matures certain things , like planning, executive function type activities become more second nature...

This next week should be interesting to see how this unfolds. The family truckster will be cleaned and ready to go just in case..... Maybe I could find a chauffeur hat.....